Stopping Self-Sabotage Before it Starts - by Michael Neill
Supercoach Michael Neill gives you an exercise to help you identify just what it is that you really want - and what stops you!
You can have anything you want in life, but you do have to pay...attention! - Old Hawaiian Saying
Have you ever been travelling blissfully towards the life of your dreams, only to find that just when things are going great, you do something stupid to mess it all up? This phenomenon is often called "self-sabotage", and it has both a simple cause and a simple cure.
What causes self-sabotage is our perception, often outside of our conscious awareness, that what we say we want is in conflict with what we really want. (For example, we may feel there is a conflict between wanting to be rich and wanting to be a good person, or between wanting to move up the corporate ladder and wanting more time for ourselves).
The cure, as always, is awareness, and the simplest way to increase ourawareness is to pay attention. What follows are ten questions designed tofocus the flashlight of your awareness on the most common areas of hidden conflicts in goal setting...
Today's Experiment (approx. time 3 minutes per goal):
Choose a goal to work with, and ask yourself the following ten questions. You can write down your answers or simply answer the questions aloud...
1. What do you want?
2. Why do you want it?
3. Why don't you want it?
4. How much energy will it take (1-10) to achieve it?
5. What skills will you have to utilise and/or develop in order to achieve it?
6. Who else does it involve? Who else does it effect?
7. What's the time frame? Is it imposed externally, internally, or both?
(i.e. does something "bad" happen if you don't make it or do you just promise to feel "bad"?:-)
8. Financially, how much will it cost? How much will it make? How important (1-10) is the money factor?
9. How likely (1-10) do you think it is that you will get what you want?
10. If you could have it right now, would you take it?
Have fun, learn heaps, and pay attention!
Michael Neill is an internationally renowned success coach and the best-selling author of You Can Have What You Want, Feel Happy Now! and the Effortless Success audio program. He has spent the past 18 years as a coach, adviser, friend, mentor and creative spark plug to celebrities, CEOs, royalty, and people who want to get more out of their lives. He hosts a weekly talk show on HayHouseRadio.com, and his daily and weekly coaching columns can be read on his website atwww.geniuscatalyst.com
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