NLP Life Training - 10 Years

My Genuine Desire to Learn - by Gina Pickersgill

Gina Pickersgill relates her reactions to the very different style of learning fostered by NLP, and tells how her first experience of learning NLP was so far removed from any educational process she had encountered before.
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Gina Pickersgill

A genuine desire to learn NLP is essential because it requires a focus of determination to notice the more subtle elements of its art.  One of the things that needs to be realised is the way in which it is taught.  Due to the structure of how they teach, Richard Bandler and John LaValle get you to do more things than you are consciously aware of.  Now I am not going to tell you exactly what because frankly it’s not something that can be done in written form.  It requires that you experience that for yourself.  But what I will say is that it’s one of the most life transforming experiences you will ever have in a training context.

Over the years I have experienced many trainings mainly for my own personal development. None of them have come even close to what I experienced the first time I trained in 1998.  At the time I was at University studying for a degree where learning the academic way was my ‘bread and butter’ learning style. All I can say is that what I experienced was markedly different in every way from academia. 

Consider note taking, for example. In NLP trainings this was ‘not allowed’.  How are you going to notice what’s going on if you have your head buried in a notebook?  Observation and keeping your attention on the outside were enthusiastically encouraged. 

The second enigma that contrasted with the academic learning style is that we were required to ‘feel good’ and dare I say it? - even laugh. Laugh?  How can you learn without being serious?  Well, you would see the point to this, but only if you were not taking notes, because that would be a very ‘serious’ mistake.  Which leads me to the next enigma - and that is that making mistakes is ‘allowed’.  Oh my god, how can this be?

One of the biggest breakthroughs I experienced was being able to feel ok about ‘mucking it up’.  All my life I had been used to the idea that mistakes were bad and should not be made.   “Don’t make any mistakes or you’ll be sorry” I was told by those entrusted with my early learning, but who in reality, were teaching me how to be limited.  Furthermore (don’t you just love that phrase?) they were teaching me how to be limited in their way.  A double limitation whammy!  Needless to say I took this learning style with me, eventually coming to the conclusion that learning something new was not for me…. Until…. I learned that making mistakes was a good thing when learning to learn, as long as I used them productively to improve and grow my own knowledge.  Alas! My genuine desire had been reinstated with a vengeance!  I am still learning, not just about NLP, but about all areas of my life that require a fresh perspective.  This point alone has been one of the most precious gifts I have given myself.

In choosing to learn NLP, it is and has helped me to open doors to new rooms in my life that I might not have considered previously.  It does and has helped me to understand more about how I learn best and the right states to be in when doing so.  It does and has helped me to really focus on my life in more productive ways that have led to innovative projects, ideas and collaborations within the NLP community.  It does and has helped me to overcome limitations that have shown me what’s been on the other side of that door. 

What doors have you yet to discover what is behind them?  I’ll say that again. What doors have you yet to discover?  What is behind them? Does this question make you want to keep them shut even tighter?  Well now you have at least one other way to respond.  Enjoy learning NLP - and see you on the other side of that door ;)

Best wishes

Peer Endorsement:

"Gina is one of a kind and has contributed to the world of NLP with her innovative use of new technologies and ideas.  Gina has the ability to capture the hearts and minds of those she meets with her passion for doing good work and helping people become better at what they do in a gentle way.  She has created an eZine resource for NLP.  It is original in nature and it is focused on Healing. The Healing Pool Magazine, as it's called, is respected by her peers. She works to high standards and has been an experienced assistant on the London NLP Trainings with us.  She is quite influential and creative and I highly recommend her for individual coaching and corporate innovations, especially if you desire to gain the cutting edge scoop on psychological and technological developments. - John La Valle, co-author of Persuasion Engineering®, with Richard Bandler, co-creator of NLP"

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